9 Divorce Tips that can help you survive the upcoming Holidays!
9 Divorce Tips that can help you this Holiday Season
1.) Keep Your Emotions in Check
3.) Be Patient
Be patient with yourself, and your kids as well as the rest of your family as you navigate the upcoming holidays. This is new and different for everyone and a little patience will go a long way toward making your first holidays post-separation/divorce more enjoyable than you might believe they can be right now.
4.) Focus On Others
Another way to enjoy the holiday season is to focus on those less fortunate than you. Now I get there are times when you feel like the most unfortunate person around (at least that’s how I felt at times when I was going through my divorce), but you really can survive your divorce and the holidays by being willing to recognize that it could be worse.
5.) It’s Not About The Stuff!
Gift giving is often a big part of the holiday season. With separation and divorce, the funds available for gift giving can be temporarily less than they were before. However, gifts don’t need to be purchased to be appreciated. Sometimes the gift of time and attention means more than any store-bought gift ever could.
6.) Let Happiness Happen
For a lot of people going through a Divorce can seem strange to experience any emotion other than some form of upset. However, if you start to feel happy as a result of the holiday events, ENJOY the feeling! You deserve to be happy and enjoy the holidays just as much as everyone else does.
7.) Reach Out To Family and Friends
Almost everyone I know wishes someone could read their mind and offer help when it’s needed. On the other hand, I don’t know anyone who can read minds with any real reliability. The message here is if you need a little extra help to get your holidays to feeling merrier, be sure and ask for it. Don’t wait for someone to guess what you need because there’s a chance that they might not guess correctly.
8.)Make New Traditions
With a divorce, so many things change. Some of these changes are not so comfortable, but some of these changes are good and might even be fun. What new family tradition can you introduce this holiday season to keep things fun? It could be something as simple as adding a new dish to the setup or to go to a play the day before, whatever brings new happiness and a positive change.
9.) Nix The Guilt
We feel that this is one of the most important Divorce Tips we can give you. So many divorced parents feel guilty about how the kids’ holidays will be different. The thing is different doesn’t necessarily mean bad or wrong. Different is just different. If you nix the guilt and embrace the new way your holidays will be, then your kids will enjoy the holidays too. After all, if the kids are now having double the celebrations it’s worth making sure they’re having fun with you.
In Closing – By Attorney Stephanie D. Dixon
Try to work with your ex (or soon to be ex) in a cooperative manner for the kids’ sake or go back to modify your agreement! One of the things I always tell my clients is that their divorce is between them and their former spouse. The holidays can be a wonderful experience for the kids provided that’s the shared goal for you and your former spouse.
In Georgia, you can modify your original custody Agreement/Order if there is a material change in condition or circumstances. The Court will look at the best interests of the children. That does not mean that you will achieve the Modification in Custody. It depends on the facts of your case and the Court’s discretion. *
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